in honor of the day, i’ve invited one of my fav bloggers to “political poet.wordpress.com” to give us his perspective on love.
dr. heart, the stage is yours.
thank you political poet. my name is dr. heart. sometimes, a little bit of guidance can go a long way. did you know that valentines day is named after religious martyrs who died for their beliefs? the word “martyr,” in its greek root, means: witness. today, i’d like to bear witness to a common love issue i see around me. i’m going to put it real simple, but try not to think of the equation as good vs. bad. its more, apples vs. oranges. let’s dig in, shall we?
relationship wisdom, by dr. heart:
there are people who simply want to be in a relationship. it matters less to these people who they are with and more that they are with someone. let’s call these folks: business lovers.
there are also people who seek and believe in true love. let’s call these folks: hopeful lovers.
sometimes business lovers and hopeful lovers end up together. hopeful lovers work towards love, while business lovers work towards staying in the relationship. the difference between the two will become clear when, one day, tired of feeling hungry at a paltry table of love, the hopeful lover will try to leave the relationship.
which kicks the business lover into high gear. they will spin around the kitchen, putting on a show of making you all your favorite dishes. the food is extra sweet, dripping with butter, and ocean salty. but it is not nourishing in the long run.
by design, it will be hard for the hopeful lover to leave when the business lover feeds them cotton candy hope. peep game: while the business lover may be of low aim, they are not of low intelligence. the business lover will know they got a full meal when all they paid for was a snack. they will hold on to the unearned prize of you for dear life. not because they are evil, but because the business love knows they may never get a deal this good again.
when the hopeful lover begins to drift, the business lover’s organizational mission is to hold on until you are strung out again in love. once the hopeful lover is securely reseated at the table, they will get treated like a snack, again. which is simply all the business lover ordered in the first place.
hopeful lover, leave this bare bones table. shed a life of broken expectations. believe when they show you who they are. go, find another hungry sky. for there are others with abundant tables of love.
maybe the business lover will break the glass ceiling of low expectations and empty love calories.
perhaps this your will become an eternal banquet of love.
but this will not happen without a clean break. the business lover needs the incentive of you, gone.
hopeful lover, you have to embody, live in, breath in the high love expectations of your own dreams. model self confidence, model hope.
maybe your ex will see that its possible and shift towards abundance. don’t put your life on hold waiting for this to happen. just be observant. the business lover will never change, unless they themselves are able to begin again.
we all deserve love. go out and find the hearts that call with a song like yours.
dr. heart will be available to answer any love related questions you have. thank you for stopping by doctor. and now, some valentines day love poems from yours truly, political poet.
love poem #1
try or die
love poem #2: for miggedy-mac, my boo
i guess i dont write
no light hearted
but baby i write
and i build us a home
stay tuned for more, from your fav political poet, roopa singh.