on cheating: the love doctor makes a house call from india

dear readers,

my hair is still drying from doing yoga on the roof in the rain, monsoon cleans out the brain, here in ahmedabad the peacocks be calling my name. you can call me the love doctor. you’ve seen me here before. this post is on cheating.

from a umich site, click for original link

being in india means everyone wants to school me on what it means to be indian, they think because i was born and raised in the states, that i know nothing about humara sanskar, our traditions. they don’t realize that traditions are specially preserved in the diasopra. like snapshots, slices of love that last.

no matter where you’re from, if you believe in love, faith is an issue you are bound to encounter. traveling through india, i’ve been staying with mad different couples. i recently stayed with an adorable couple in their late 30’s, who seem happy. but even a few hours with the husband revealed that he cheats chronically. truth be told, he would have fucked me in his own home, wife and kids there and everything, i could see the eager in his pose. made me sick.

this fellow feels a right to play his wife, he has convinced himself that everybody does it, i think he actually believes that he and his wife have an agreement. of course, he’s never had the balls to tell her straight up whats going on. of course, she’s known all along. you could tell by the way she bends him in half with guilt, see the glare off the hilt of her squint, she’s watching him talk to me. his phone is ringing off the hook with abbreviated names: 10 missed calls from “so,” 5 unanswered texts from “r.” along with the names cut in half come spirits severed. mainly, he is cheating himself.

i recently came across a concept: deathlessness. the state of un-decay. the choice to live in every way. only so much time in a day. so why waste it on such hypocrisy. while you are building a barricade of lies around your soul, your body is growing old, your spirit covered with mold. so what are you scared of. what do the lies protect you from? yourself?

when i was a young girl, i had to protect myself, but i didn’t know how. so i dug a moat around the castle of my body, a moat of flesh, fat. my body had decided for me that we would take this measure to protect ourselves. it didn’t work. so now, i’m letting it go. my castle deserves to be seen. plus, i want to be deathless in my life practice. i dont want to hide anymore. i feel like people who cheat are also hiding. they are guided in conscious and unconscious ways by the urges of their body to wrap themselves in lies. meanwhile, they watch their lives pass them by, wondering why their dreams get unzipped like their flies.

im not saying don’t cheat. im not trying to judge. im just saying, if you are hiding and you no longer know why, maybe its time to try something new. like cleaning yourself out from the inside of your soul to the outside of your body. i’m doing it, you can too.

stay tuned for more, from india.

the love doctor

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7 thoughts on “on cheating: the love doctor makes a house call from india

  1. naxal says:

    nice piece.

    • Madhu B K S says:

      You have done a wonderful job putting it together so cleverly & wisely. My Hats off to you for being yourself & letting every one be aware of it.

      Your proud mom
      Madhu K

      • naxal says:

        well thank you and i love you for being the type of desi mom who generally accepts me for who the hell i am. 🙂

  2. Yes, I too have observed some desi men have propensity to boast about their piccadillos to unrelated desi women. I guess it is a kind of bait to let ladies know how miserable they are in their pathetic marriages. If the lady wears trousers, has short hair or is unmarried past the socially deemed appropriate age of marriage, more over if she is widow or divorce they assume she is definitely desparate for him and if she agrees they’ll be actually doing her a favor.


    Desi Girl

    • naxal says:

      dear desi girl,

      you make a good point here, about them doing us a favor. and you know what? i think this is a universal thing, desi or not, guys all around the world think their lust or love is a favor to us ladies. what happened to getting courted is a cliche question that is nevertheless relevant. im going to check out your blog…

  3. Samsujata says:

    Marvelous. You wrote a marvelous piece, something I always wanted to write in my site. Wise and Loyal thought, I reckon !

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